Updated: Oct 25, 2020
Are you a victim or a victor? The difference is in your mindset. I know this to be true from my own story.
I am thankful for the work ethic of my parents but I was still raised in poverty. Food stamps and every other kind of government assistance were a regular source of support. I adopted the mindset that I was owed something and the world needed to give it to me or it was ”their“ fault I didn’t succeed. Now this wasn’t directly taught, I was always taught to work hard and take care of my family, it was adopted because of my circumstance.
Everything changed when I realized that I wasn’t a victim because of what happened or didn’t happen in my life. I was a victim because I chose to be. Wow, I need to choose something different. I need to take responsibility and take control.
Before I started my business I was thinking about friends of mine who are rather successful. They own multiple businesses, land, and are establishing quite the legacy. I caught myself thinking, “I wish I had the opportunities they had. I wish my parents or grandparents would have established themselves to the point of owning land so I would have had a better start.” That is the last time I allowed myself to think like a victim. No sooner than that thought crossed my mind I had another more powerful thought, “Why don’t YOU stop complaining and YOU create that opportunity for your family?”
You see, instead of fueling the victim mentality I made a conscious decision that day, choose to be a victor and build from there. Stop looking back on what you didn’t have and look forward to what you are called to create.
I had two options:
A) Play the victim card and complain about what I didn’t have.
B) Start building and creating a lasting legacy that will impact my lineage forever.
I chose B. You can too.
“Now there were four men with leprosy at the entrance of the city gate. They said to each other, “Why stay here until we die?”
2 Kings 7:3 NIV
These men men made their choice. (See 2 Kings 7 for the full story.) The point is they could have stayed there sulking in their circumstance. Instead, they took action! The world we live in encourages a victim mentality. It’s a trap. Make a better choice today.
Oh, and if you catch yourself saying, “But you don’t understand!” This is definitely for you and I am glad you read this far. Let’s get to work.
Check out “Victim v. Victor? (Mindset)” on our podcast: “More Than Numbers: Enneagram For Entrepreneurs” available on all platforms.